A lot of people struggle financially and think to themselves, “oh you know what, I cannot become rich because I don’t have enough money or I don’t have enough capital. I don’t have the right idea, or I’m not in the right industry, or I don’t have the right connections.
From my experience that’s not what most people lack. The one thing that holds back people is their ego. I’m gonna share with you 13 different types of ego.
1. The Blame Ego
People blame, they blame almost everything. It’s not my fault, it’s the government’s fault, it’s the economy, it’s the industry, it’s my co-workers, it’s my parents, oh you know what, I come from a dysfunctional family and that’s why I would never become rich, it is because my supervisor, he is holding me back and that’s why I could never become rich. The blame ego always says it’s someone else’s fault, they are always pointing fingers and remember, when you’re pointing finger to someone else, one finger pointing out, guess what three fingers pointing back. Do you have this ego? Do you blame other people? Do you make excuses? This may be the one that’s holding you back.
2. The Know-it-all Ego
I thought I know it all, I don’t need to read books. I know what I’m doing, I was studying all these businesses and guess what? None of them work because I thought I knew what I was talking about. It is very important to empty your cup to learn more. Be open to new ideas and learn from other successful people. Don’t be a know-it-all person, you will not grow as a person with this kind of attitude.
3. Fearful Ego
What holds a lot of people back is fear. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of making a mistake. Think about it, before you do something you’re saying to yourself, well what if it doesn’t work or what if I lose money and what if I make a mistake then what happens. What if I don’t know what to do, what if I can’t figure this out. Always remember, fear is an acronym, it stands for false evidence appearing real. It’s nothing more than a made-up story in your own mind so you have your fearful ego holding you back.
4. The Comfort Zone Ego
I’m comfortable, I’m happy where I am. I’m content. Things are fine you know. I don’t need to be ambitious. But that’s the problem, your income zone is your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is your income zone. When you get complacent, when you get comfortable, you are not growing. Remember, when you’re not growing, you are dying. So, do you have this ego that is holding you back right now and what are you going to do about it?
5. The Judgmental Ego
I want you to imagine this, you are walking down the street and suddenly, you see a red Ferrari just drove by. What’s the first thought that comes through your mind? What’s the very first thought that comes to your mind? My guess is, chances are he’s an asshole and think he is so cocky, so selfish, probably a greedy bastard. Actually you know what, it’s not his money anyway, it’s his daddy’s money or if it’s a lady, she’s a a gold digger. All these negativities, you are judging other people. My question to you is how do you know? How do you know it’s all made-up stories? In your mind right and you say oh he’s not that good, she’s not that pretty, he’s not that smart. You’re judging other people, you’re projecting your own insecurities, your own values on the other people. How do you know that man is not a hard-working man? How do you know he’s not a good husband? How do you know he is not a family man? How do you know he’s someone who’s worked 20 or 30 years to get to where he is at this point. How do you know you judge? You come to your own conclusions before even talking to the person. How your mind works, how are you gonna be successful, how you ever gonna become rich if that’s the image that you have for people who are successful?
6. The Excuses Ego
You can make money or you can make excuses but you cannot do both. An excuse is nothing more than a well planted lie, you see the excuses ego says, well I can’t afford it, I don’t have money, too far, or too difficult – I don’t have enough experience. It’s always I can’t, I can’t I can’t, or I don’t know how. You could have a million excuses why you cannot do something, you only need one damn good reason why you must do it.
7. The People-Pleasing Ego
You try to please people too much, you always put other people first. Nothing wrong with that, but sometimes in life you have to put yourself first. Even when you’re flying on an airplane, you got to put on your own oxygen mask first, before you help someone else. Sometimes in life, you have to put yourself first. You have to be a bit selfish so you could be generous. You always put your family first, you always put other people first. My question to you is, what about you and you might think you’re so selfless. No you’re not, that’s people-pleasing ego in play.
8. Justification Ego
You justify why you don’t do something, you justify why you can’t do it. You know I am too young, I am too old. I am an immigrant, I speak with an accent, I don’t have enough experience, or maybe you know what it’s too late, I’m married, I’ve got a wife, I have kids, I sacrifice for my kids and you know what I never wanted in any way that it’s a lie. Do not justify your failures.
9. The Jealous Ego
Have you ever said stuff like this, all rich people are greedy, they are selfish. It’s not that big of a deal anyway, it’s jealousy, don’t criticize what you have not done or what you’re not capable to do. Don’t judge, sometimes I even see it on a daily basis, people judging this and that. Don’t be jealous of others, you have your own timeline and journey.
10. The Fake Ego
Have you ever met someone that you don’t know them, but the minute you meet with them, they just have this weird kind of vibe that you don’t trust him, or her or they feel very thick. Then you feel like oh my god, it’s just so thick, they’re so superficial that you don’t make that connection. Have you ever met someone that just a minute you meet with them, you make that instant connection and then there’s that trust that says that bond that you feel this person is sincere. The fake ego, maybe that’s you, maybe that you’re very good at putting on this mask, you’re very good that in one circumstance, you can be this person. In another scenario, you become a different person and then here, you become another person, and before you know it, you’ve done it for so many years, you don’t know who you are anymore. You don’t know which one is the real you, you’ve lost yourself. Be yourself, everyone else is taken. Be yourself, I will rather people hate me for who I am than love me for who I am not, so don’t don’t use the fake ego, you don’t need it to be successful.
11. The Shy Ego
The shy ego set shine. I’m just an introvert, I’m not good with people, and I’m just like, it’s okay I don’t like to talk out to speed like that. You use that as an excuse, you use that to stay in your own bubble, you use that to stay in your own shell. Guess what, believe it or not I was a very shy person, I was an introvert, I was the kid when I was going through high school I had no friends. I didn’t want to talk to people because I couldn’t speak the language. I’m so afraid even now sometimes when I go to meet a lot of people I still sometimes have that bit of awkwardness. It’s normal, but I don’t let that hold me back, I know if I want to be more successful, if I want to be rich I have to get outside of my comfort zone. I have to overcome my shyness, that’s how I could do what I do. So don’t use your personality as an excuse to hold you back.
12. The Other People’s Opinions Ego
Do you worry a lot what people think of you? Do you worry how people perceive you? You know, you want to do something but what would people think of that? What would people think of your action, even deep down you know that’s the right thing to do, but you don’t do it because you have other people’s opinions ego. You let other people’s opinions stop you from doing what you know is the right thing. Those people, they could be your family, it could be your relatives, it could be your friends, it could be your high school buddies. It doesn’t matter, it could be social media, you’re uploading a video, you’re posting on social media, you’re making noise, you’re getting attention suddenly, you get a few haters. Haters and trolls in your life and some keyboard warriors, some losers post a comment, you’re like oh, I guess they hurt your feelings and you stop doing what is right. You stop doing what is gonna make you successful. Stop worrying about other people’s opinions. It’s just their opinion system doesn’t matter. Critics and haters are always going to have a negative opinion about you, don’t let them win.
13. Do it Yourself Ego
The do-it-yourself ego says, this if you want something done, you’ve got to do it yourself. Well, they’ll never do it as good as the way that I do. I don’t trust him, or I don’t trust her, if you want something done you gotta do it yourself. What you’re really saying is, I don’t trust other people, that is ego, that’s a form of ego that holds you back because nothing great is accomplished just with one person. It requires other people, it requires teamwork. So the do-it-yourself ego, this is probably one of the most common evils that most people back the whole most entrepreneurs back .That’s holding them back from going to that next level because they are control freaks, they have this massive doing yourself ego that’s holding them back.
How many of these egos do you have out of the 13? These 13 egos are preventing most people from becoming rich. Try to eliminate at least half of these.